Guess Who's Coming to Dinner Part 2

In the first blog, we set the guest-list: The Diva, The Worry Wart, The Loner and the Energy Sucker. These are just four types of guests who could come to your dinner. Most of us know at least one of these. So, how do we avoid conflict? The key is to recognize the type of person you are dealing with. It’s easy to want to mark your place or step up to defend yourself, but the second step is to resist engagement. By resisting engagement, you are controlling the YOU factor. As you may have guessed, avoiding conflict is the next step followed by self- preservation. Be sure to handle yourself and the guest list will follow. Do not think you have to do everything either. Defenses are down during the holidays with an increase in alcohol, less sleep and more interaction with people you generally [...] Read more

Guess Who's Coming to Dinner?

The holidays are a stressful time. Not only is it a busy time, but also other family members, friends and in-laws are in the mix. There may be times when you want to rip your hair out, but there are some simple solutions. One of the main things to remember is reacting. How you react can change the trajectory of the holidays. Reacting is reflexive and emotional, and interacting consists of conscious, thoughtful actions. Both of these describe different types of exchanges during these dinnertime holiday get together. If an interaction is negative, what is the common denominator? YOU Let’s look at the guest list: - The Diva – This person has feelings of self-importance, takes advantage of others to achieve goals, exaggerates talents and achievements, constant attention, lacks empathy and [...] Read more